Saturday, October 26, 2013

Enough is Enough!

What a whirlwind few months this has been! 
So many things to process, so many new disappointments to try and accept.....where do I even begin?

Around three months ago I started experiencing some strange new symptoms. I woke up one afternoon (I suffer from horrible insomnia, so I tend to finally fall asleep in the wee hours of the morning if I fall asleep at all.) with what I thought was the beginning stages of the flu. I had the full body aches, chills and a horrific headache! I didn't think to much of it since a few of my friends had been ill the week prior, so I took some pain meds and curled up on the couch. Well, that is where I remained for the next three days and, strangely, my symptoms never progressed into the "flu". As each day passed, I noticed that the pain radiating through my bones was getting worse by the hour. It got to the point where I could literally feel every single joint in my body and the larger bones felt like they were being crushed from the inside. The headache lingered on for a full three days no matter what meds I took. I would go from a cold sweat to feeling like I was laying inside a furnace in a moments notice yet I had no dicernable fever. As you might expect I was beginning to get concerned as I entered into day number four of these odd sensations! I called my Dr's office and got the soonest appointment they could manage which was the following week. Then, around the middle of day number five the frightening symptoms simply vanished!? I was exhausted, of course since I suffer from chronic fatigue syndrome, but otherwise felt normal. Or I should say "normal for me". The episode concerned me enough that I kept my appointment with the Dr which turned out to be a good decision because the morning of my appointment I awoke to the symptoms of concern returning with a vengeance! My Dr ordered blood work and a leg scan (to check on the stents in my vein). During the next week or so, while we waited on the blood work, the alarming symptoms came and went in waves. One day I would feel fine, except for my normal leg pain and swelling, then the next day I would lie on the couch in tears because my bones felt as though they were breaking. Almost two weeks later my Dr called and informed me that the blood work and leg scans came back relatively normal but she wanted me to make an appointment for the following week to see if we'd missed anything. That was a fortuitous decision! During the follow up we discussed all of my symptoms again and went over the tests. While she was looking at my blood panel she realized that one of the tests she'd ordered was not in the report. It had been archived in the wrong system, so she logged into the hospitals records and pulled up the test results. Her face fell a bit.....I knew something wasn't right and now, I could tell by the look on her face, she knew it too! The test that had been missing from her system was a very specific test for Lupus and the result was positive. (A false positive is possible but considering my history and symptoms the odds of that, in my case, are very slim.) All of a sudden the tone of our conversation changed. It was like she was putting a puzzle together and all the pieces were falling into place. We discussed all of the medical issues that had arisen over the last three years, my families medical history and all of my new was pretty obvious that she was seeing everything in a whole new light. After an awkward moment of silence, she leaned towards me and said "Ok, given all the information, we are now working under the assumption that you have Lupus." I had suspected this, or something like it for quite some time, but to hear those words come out of my Dr's mouth made my heart sink. The only bright side is that if SLE ends up being my final diagnosis it would explain every single thing that has gone wrong with me since I started getting sick back in 2010 while I was working in Salem! (Excess stress is one of the primary triggers for Lupus, and I had that in spades when I was dealing with all the drama up there.) We still have a long road ahead before reaching a definitive diagnosis. There is more blood work, researching all the labs I've had done over the past three years, inflammation tests and possibly a kidney biopsy before I can even get into a Rheumatologist for further investigation.(There is a terrible shortage of Dr's in that field right now, so they won't even take new patients without multiple tests confirming the suspected diagnosis.) 

In addition to that tentative diagnosis, I finally broke down and agreed to see a Phycologist to deal with the depression and anxiety I have been having. I have officially been diagnosed with Major Depressive Disorder/Recurring/Moderate and Acute Panic Disorder w/ Agoraphobia. I like this Dr very much, which I wasn't expecting, so I foresee his therapy helping quite a bit. We are attempting to treat without meds for now, so we'll see how it goes. 

As if the new developments weren't enough, I am still plagued by the recurrence of my Pilonidol Cyst. The old wounds aren't healing and, as of last week, there is a whole new cyst developing. At this point my surgeon wants me to continue with care at the Wound Clinic and see how it goes. He is afraid that if we perform surgery at this juncture it might make things worse instead of better. So, for now, that issue is on the back burner unless the condition worsens. 

I am completely and totally overwhelmed! On the one hand I am elated that we are one step closer to a possible answer to my ongoing medical mysteries, but on the other hand I am terrified! If I am officially diagnosed with SLE (Systemic Lupus Erythmatosis) there is truly no end in sight. The disease has no cure. All we can do is treat the symptoms as they come and attempt to prevent flares. It's scary to think that your own immune system can turn on know that cells your body normally creates to attack infections suddenly start attacking your vital organs and tissues for no known reason! This knowledge makes you fear your own makes you wonder "Will tomorrow be the day I catch a cold and my own body will kill me because of it?". That is the fear of anyone living with a chronic autoimmune disorder. I know that nothing is certain at this time, but that doesn't make the fear go away, in fact, it makes it worse because the longer you go without a diagnosis the more time the disease has to do irreparable damage to your body. It's a terrifying road to travel and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy!

My body is saying it's done, but my heart is saying to fight to the end and that is exactly what I intend to do!! I am a fighter dammit and I will win this battle! It helps that I have an amazing husband by my side.....a husband that meant it when he vowed "in sickness and in health...". If I didn't have Brian and the kids I would've given up a long time ago. Without them as my constant support system I would've been defeated because the sad reality is that when things like this happen you find out that a lot of the people you've supported over the years don't reciprocate that courtesy. The common name for these people is "fair weather friends". You know the ones, the people who say they will "always" be there for you through think and thin but then turn tail and run when crisis hits. I have found out the hard way that even if you've devoted your life to being the "helper" that once you become the "helpee" those "fair weather friends" disappear. Now, don't get me wrong, I have a few very devoted friends that are doing the best they can to understand what I am going through and support me as best they can. To those people, and you know very well who you are, I love you with all of my heart and soul and don't know what I would do without you!!! I have learned a lot these last three years about loyalty, devotion and the essence of true friendship but I would be lying if I didn't admit that I have been terribly disappointed by the response of people I once called "friend"! When I give my friendship to someone it is forever, regardless of circumstances. I love with my whole heart and with that I give others the ability to break it.....and believe me when I say I know what it is to have that heart smashed into a million little pieces. It is a pain like no other, especially when you still love the person (or people) that broke it in the first place! Rest assured, I still love every friend I have ever had and I always will, but the time has come where I need to put myself first and if that means cutting ties and burning some bridges......well, then that is what I have to do. If, sadly, one of you reading this today is one of those "fair weather friends/family" and you find yourself on the other side of that burned bridge please remember that I will always love you but it's time for me to take care of me! My love is forever.......but enough is enough!

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